desperate

We lose sales, and our relationship gets sour because of our desperation. We should realize that things in life take time.

When we become desperate, we end up becoming obsessed.
As a result, we forget to see things rationally.

Early days of building our company, I was so desperate for initial customers that I gave away products for free for a year.

I wasted 6-8 months seeking feedback from people who were not my actual customers. Even now, they will have advice for me but not money.

When you are desperate, you lower your value in the eye of others. Let things take their course. Do not rush, and don’t be desperate.

zindgi

ek mukaam pe log mil zate hai, zindgiyaan mil zati hai, mil zata hai jine ka asra aur ho zate hai zindgi ko jine ke liye agrsar.

kitne duvidha se likhe hai zindgi hamare, kuch pal kuch humsafar mil zate hai zindgi mae, dae zate hai sahara aur kuch khusi. Zindgi waise bi to chand pal ki mehmaan he hai. Hum hai kaun?

Ek musafir he to hai. Ziye za rahe hai ek masaal liye zindgi ka. Ek aadat se ho rakhi thi bhoot me simat zane ke, vartmaan aur bhavisya ka socha he na tha.

Hum chalte chalte ek waqt tham zate hai, phir kabr me simat zate hai. Hame waqt he nahi milta khud se ru-baru hone ka. Kuch chand musafir aur unke kadmo se mile kadmo me he to hum zi zate hai zindgi ko.

thoughts

Are we slaves to our thinking?
Do we act according to it?
What are these thoughts?
How or why it comes to us?
Is there a way to live the present moment of life without thoughts?

Our life is a sum of our past experiences, ego, and expectations. Our thoughts cement it. Every little thing we do, feel, and experience. They all become part of our thoughts.

We say monkey mind, but in reality, this reactive mind is a byproduct of our experiences, and we have developed thoughts about it.

We are all locked into this society where preachers and leaders dictate what is good or bad. The teaching defines good or bad. We get punished for disobeying. This upbringing results in growing up with thoughts of a kind.

Imagine growing up in a family of risk takers, hunters. What are virtue and vice for you? Is it not about feeding and staying alive?

smile

When we smile, it brings peace and joy. It’s our body’s hormones that come into play. It reduces our stress and pain. It brings an aura that makes the world around us pleasant. It’s like spreading the wings and making everyone around happy. I understand we live a stressful life. Thanks to the rat race and societal expectations. But this does not mean we should kill or hide from being ourselves. We are all living in pain. But these smiles are seeds of our mood. A smile makes us feel good and rejuvenates us.

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kids

We are all little kids within. We like to be cajoled and cared for. Sadly the world we are living in, we are all busy. We have forgotten ourselves. As a result, we are running like zombies and never giving importance to the little baby inside us. The little us that wants to dance, play and act like a baby. But then society will dictate to us telling: you are an adult and act or behave like it.

As a result, we will kill that kid slowly and gradually. As a result, we will let go of the creative part that thinks out of the box.

Perfect

Don’t be a perfectionist. You don’t have to put yourself in a bucket. You are less stressed and working in your focused area without any FOMO.

It takes away lots of mental pain and expectations burden when you are not part of the herd. The world will leave you thinking you are crazy.
It is a super good state to be in.

My last ten years have taught me to seek mental well-being above everything. The no fucks given attitude has made me an asshole in the eyes of a few. I am okay with it. I don’t want the world to like me when I am part of their checkbox.

We are masters of our own destiny. It matters a lot to be stoic about your own true north.

Long game

Building a startup is like raising a child if your fundamentals are to leave a legacy. Building a company requires an honest culture and a people-first approach. As a founder, this should be the most important virtue.

Things take time, and building slow and steady cement utmost love, care, and pain. It is towards solving customers’ pain. With customer word of mouth, more sales channels open.

In the old days, sales were about playing golf, socializing, and closing.
The time has changed.
The decision-makers are not the only ones who cut the cheque.
It’s those who use your product.

Your product has to solve all customer personas. It is not easy and takes lots of pain and keeping a check on our ego. But this is how It is. Not everyone is going to be your customer or believer.

We are in the era of yearly renewals. Those days of selling and charging for support are gone. You have to iterate and update your product regularly and keep the customer base intact.

prayers

I was at a workshop where artisans make Pashmina Shawls. It was good learning. The overall process of making Pashmina Shawls takes 4-7 years. It requires a lot of precision and deep focus. One artisan spends all their time in it. It becomes more like their prayer. They carry out every day. They wish all the good luck to the buyer who wears it.

change

Is it because we are scared or our laziness that we dislike change? I know dozen toxic relationships where people continue staying because of the unknown. They can’t imagine what is waiting for them next positively.

The same applies to switching jobs or expanding a new business unit. We are scared of the unknown. We see the downside more than the upside.

Why is it so? Is it because society has conditioned us to become sheep? Take no risk, and don’t dream positively.

If a few dreamers had not taken a risk and gone against society: we would still be using bullock carts, candle lamps, or pigeons to send letters.

mirror

We like people who are like our own mirrors. People who shape our progress and make life more livable. We learn from them and understand their view on various subjects related to life and work. We resonate with it. It does not feel like we are forcing ourselves on their company because they are like you. They are a mirror of you. It’s like talking to yourself in a mirror.

The journey of life is painful. It has up and downs. Find more and more of your mirrors.