Externals

We are born to live in this society, but consciousness and actions are all ours. Why do we need approvals from others on our actions?

Many businesses are reaping on our insecurity. This approval from externals.

It is our life, how does it matter to us what someone on social media has to say about how we dress, eat or look?

Why should it affect our self-esteem or confidence?

How many of the so-called critics have seen the hard work we have been through to reach this stage.

Crying

Crying is not limited to humans. Even animals cry.

Crying is not limited to the flow of water coming through our eyes. There are scenarios, situations in our life where we have got a limited choice. The situations which need us to take action on short notice.

* An accident on a highway with no ambulance to carry for immediate medicare.
* Rare chances of survival for the wife of a tea seller. Even after selling his tea stall, he could not pay the operating costs.

There are some situations where we can show rationality to outside.

Nothingness

Past few months have been exciting. In short, I am getting closer to the state of nothingness. The state of feeling nothing. Earlier I used to be in this state for a few days. It has continued longer this time.

I am not judging if it is good or bad for me. But I am sure people around me must be witnessing a robot near them.

What could have been the reason for it: Food, What I read, I listen to. I have no clue.

c-state versus f-state

In his book “driven to distraction at work”, the author talks about c-state versus f-state.

C-state

Cool
Calm
Collected
Careful
Curious
Courteous
Caring
Consistent
Concentrated

F-state

Fearful
Fatigued
Feeble
Frantic
Forgetful
Feckless
Flakey
Fucked up

He gives his advice to achieve C-state, acquiring f-state is natural behaviour of ours.

1. Having healthy snacks.
2. A quick burst of exercise( for brain break)
3. Meditate or power nap
4. Vitamin connect(connecting with dear ones, talking with them)
5. Humor(Indulging in watching some shows)
6. Medication(If it is really necessary)
7. Experiment

I believe in some of these mentioned points. What about you?

Nope

Nobody likes No for a request. Ego fuels anger and animosity.
The ones who enjoy an upper hand will eventually force the minuscule fellow to do as directed.

Why can’t we take no?

Why can’t we be rational and listen to the other side of the story?

Why do we have to burn ourselves and run around like a headless chicken?

Power

The problem of power is not new. Many rulers were killed and the era of empires fell.
 
We, humans, crave for power. The craving for power is no less than consuming narcotics or drugs.
 
Some get lucky while others toil for power.
 
Alexander, Nero or Hitler: power dominated above everything for them all.
 
In a modern environment, power does more harm than good. The success will depend on team collective, not one person’s veto.

Respect

People forget these days that authority does not guarantee respect. It requires empathy and degree of commitment.

If you are kind, impartial and treat everyone without any bias people will respect you.

If you are in the sales role, you would be facing this daily. Every purchaser expects you to listen to them. They would like to be the supreme authority. It turns more of shoving their ego instead of rational conversation.

With great power comes great responsibility.
Benjamin “Ben” Parker(Spider-man)

You cannot threaten or scare your peers on account of superiority for respect.

One has to earn respect by respecting others.

Success factors

I was reading Charlie Munger: complete investor and liked this section where the author talks about Berkshire Hathaway success factors.

These are some of them:

1. Patient
2. Discipline
3. Clam but courageous and decisive
4. Honesty
5. Confidence and non-ideological
6. Long-term oriented
7. Passionate
8. Studious
9. Sound temperament
10. Frugal
11. Risk-averse
12. Reasonably intelligent and not misled by high IQ.
13. Collegial

I am sure these are the few of their success recipe. But these 13 factors can be implemented in every realm of our life.

Signal

It is so easy for successful people to give all sorts of advice. Not that because they may listen to them.

Actors, environmentalists, social reformers will cite hazards of firecrackers. They will burn it all during their wedding.

A celebrity will talk about empathy on an idiot box, fans will cheer and celebrate. A few days later he will be all over the news for a drunken brawl.

A politician will talk about growth and countries development before coming to power. Once in power will involve in all sorts of corruptions.

A wife-killer, the religious guru will talk about world peace and good health.

An investor will give all sorts of advice on the bull market or alternative currency. Not because he is an expert but because he has lots on the stake if the system fails.

A feminist icon will teach the world about women empowerment. Yet, she will be selling all our personal data for wall street numbers.

The more I spend my time on social media or news sites, it appears more signaling am falling for.

Are we humans so stupid to believe in anything or everything other than true nature of ours?