I might sound controversial with this post but I felt like sharing it. Our Indian society still keeps us under constant watch and the views of our family members. It has more negatives than positives.
We end up becoming a check list or TODO list of our parents. I have seen friends ending up becoming good sons and horrible fathers/ husbands. Some live a miserable life because of parental watchdogs.
We are thankful to our parents for giving us a life. We are thankful to them for paying for our education and making us adults. But does this mean we have to live on their defined path of life? What to eat or wear? Who to talk to? Who to marry? What to study? Where to work?
It sometimes becomes like you are living your life, but the brain is theirs. What happens to your individualism? The misses and hits in your life by trying and failing? Are we living for our parents or ourselves?
In the end, things come down to society and then parents will get into moral policing, which is like mental torture.
How many young people have died of their dreams because of their conservative or helicopter parents?
We have one life and it should be our duty to be most focused on personal dreams rather than making our parents and family proud and killing slowly every day. Our happiness should be of utter importance to us. If it means taking the decision to leave them for work or study, marry someone of their likeness or experimenting in a career. It should all be acceptable to yourself.
Our parental guilt trap is the real thing. But what is more important than that is being honest with ourselves, living every second of life in our own decisions and actions.