route

A founder’s life is a roller coaster ride, someday painful while another with happy surprises. There is no end to it. One has to be or act like a router between customers, team, and other stakeholders. In the end, a founder is responsible for the journey of the rocketship. They decide and take the route they would like to: build another copycat product or venture into new territory with fearlessness.

Our life throws us all the choices. It rests on us which to pick: falling to FOMO is easy, giving up is easy but riding in equanimity and taking care of the crew is what matters most.

It is like traveling on a route with a limited map as an explorer and, everything that matters, in reality, is the journey.

If some founders say they know the end, either they are lying or are clueless.

Sahara

Sahare ki talaash me zindgi gujar zati hai kuch ki,
kuch dafan ho zate hai adheer umer me.

Apni iss zindgi ka humne aisa kya kiya zo zindgi zahanuum se mehsoon hoti hai hame akele?

Kya ye hum hai jo dar-bedar bhatak rahe hai apne chaahat liye, ya ye zamaana hai jo kar raha hai hame gumraah?

Ye bhag dauud bheer chal ke maffik mehsoos karta hun auroo ko bhagta dekh ke.

Hum apne taqdeer khuda se mang sakte hai , phir ek sahare ke liye kyun bhatak rahe hai dar-dar begahar?

Kyu khud ko khud se itne taqleef hai jo zindgi jine ke liye sahare ki khooj me nikal padte hai hum?

Mine

I have been seeing a trend where we define an invisible wall defining mine and yours. It results in creating a divide and resulting in chaos.

We add my name to everything: friends, work, loved ones, or our wealth.

The constant urge of multiplying mine or keeping control of it is making us worried or vulnerable.

Life is more about freedom, not control or ownership. The sooner we realize it, the lesser we will be vulnerable.

Converse

I remember how attracted I was to converse shoes. From my first salary, I visited Sarojini Nagar market and bought half a dozen colors of it. Among all, I liked the red one most. I was watching too many vampires movies those days and attribute my likings to it.

What I am going to tell you will sound funnier. I went on my maiden US trip in my red converse. I decided to put my foot in the land of opportunity wearing it.

My excitement was short-lived. At the airport, my sister and brother-in-law met me. They asked my reason for wearing red shoes. I told them because I like the color. They inquired if I am attracted to males, to which I politely said No. I was surprised but inquired how the color of the shoe defines my sexual preference. He said it sends a signal. Next, I was in Walmart for a shoe purchase.

All ten days of my stay in America, my red converse shoe lived in my suitcase. I did not mention it to anyone. And when I returned, airlines had swapped my luggage, and it had gone to Eastern Siberia. The airlines asked about my loss, and I was speechless.

I was happy that if not me, my converse went to meet the Eskimoes and penguins. I was in the US to attend a Linux conference and, my red shoe went to meet penguins.

I told my then GF about the encounter and, we laughed for a few hours over beer and bidi. Next week, she had another pair of shoes for me. I think she had her internship paying her well.

Coco, the cat

Coco was not an ordinary cat; Rudra’s life circled around it. He had surrendered himself to Coco. He would care for Coco like his own child.

I was surprised to see Rudra maintaining a checklist of food, exercise, vet visit. I had never seen him taking care of his life with such clarity. Every decision of get-together, partying, or outdoor had to match Coco’s schedule. It reminded me of a king whose life lived inside the parrot.

Coco has been fed well, a cat being lazy; she cared about food and comfort. But the night of August had something else in store for Rudra. All of a sudden: Coco went missing. All hell broke loose, Rudra had a panic attack. He went in grief and hunger strike. The positives, he lost some weight.

All search operations got nothing. The apartment CCTV camera traced her leaving at wee hours all by herself. It was not that someone came to abduct Coco. It appears she left Rudhra at her own wish.

I met Rudra last week, and he seemed like a different person. Sometimes heartbreak makes you a better person and fuels you with seeking the purpose of self. Rudra has finally decided to switch his job, which he hated to the core. He jokes that Coco left me to make me a better person.

It’s ironic how we attach ourselves to others be it, humans or creatures, that at our own meaning and purpose end up living for others?

plan

I have seen people living life with plans at a small and finite granularity. I have also seen people living life moment to moment.

In the former case, when a plan misfires, misery kicks in. While in a later scene we accept things as it happens.

I am not saying we should have a life with defined or un-defined plans. All I am saying is that we can only do things with the certainty of giving the best foot forward from our side. But expecting a desired or planned outcome from it is not wise.

fear

What keeps us motivated by our fear of losing something, someone, or obsession with acquiring something or someone?

In one case, we are living in constant fear. We are fighting a battle for safeguarding our ownership.

In another case, we are an evangelical putting ourselves in the front line.

friends

One of the key ingredient of healthy life is having a few friends in front of whom we can be naked.

A bunch of few will stand by us during testing times. They are the shining stars taking us out from the self-doubt of our existence.

During my Delhi trip, I met a few of my school friends and, we were still the same kids minus our professional badge or personal wealth. The conversation was pure.

Our perfection and imperfection do not define our relationship and bonding. Finding such friends are rare.

I had too much coffee and watched Rockford and, the good old KK song has been buzzing for the last few hours.

class divide

I was traveling to Bangalore from Bagdogra a few days back. I could feel how the class system rules and the treatment for an English and a non-English speaker, predominantly a migrant worker. My experience was limited to the aviation sector.

Pandemic has opened a new section of flayers: the migrant workers. With the limited availability of trains and metros opening up for construction and hospitality, their bosses are doing everything to get them back. This instance, paying for their flight tickets, food, and airport pickup service on arrival.

While this has opened a new revenue stream for the airline industry, it has opened up a new set of challenges for the airline industry. The industry is not ready to handle these first-time flyers, limited English speakers with love, care, and empathy. The airline industry has catered to medium and high-income English speakers.

Almost all airlines in India are ill-equipped to handle this avalanche of first-time flyers. The airlines’ crew and ground staff are in pain. And victims are these first-time flyers. I witnessed 4-5 such shouting and yelling in a single journey.

Is it the mistake of being born poor?
Is it illiteracy?
The limited job opportunity in the home state?

What is their mistake: getting an opportunity to travel in an aircraft?

Our country is divided more on class than on caste, religion, or culture. Also, we are all big bigots; we have hours to discuss what is happening in Afghanistan and no words for the oppression these folks are going through.

The whole system is ill-equipped to handle these first-time flyers. That is why I have not added the airlines’ names here.