koolhead17
Are we rich or poor with material wealth or with our actions?
I know a wealthy man who donated nothing till he died.
I also know someone who was born homeless and earned a little by working 12 hours and donating 25% of his earnings to the orphanage he lived. He said dogs or cats would have eaten him if the orphanage had not existed.
Who is rich here?
We carry masks upon us.
It can be due to our religion, upbringing, and teachings via our family values. As we grow old, the layer increases as per our experience and learnings.
Have you seen a little child?
Do they care about others?
Are they not naked and breakfree?
How much do societal dogmas matter to them? What to wear, how to talk, and how to behave?
The masks we cover have made us animals. We act nicely and behave correctly. In many cases, against our will. As a result, we live in confusion between self and how we represent ourselves towards others.
We create confusion within ourselves. It can be our manifestation. It can be how we react to an event. We can complicate our lives or keep calm like a cucumber and lead it.
Life is not a binary or a zero-sum game. We live moment to moment in it. Some moments we make memorable and stick through our lives. We want to forget painful ones quickly.
It depends on us how to lead our lives. There are no shortcuts or easy way out. We have to work every moment to make our dream come true.
If progress means having an iPhone on loan, we have.
If development means wasting unlimited hours on YouTube with cheap data we have. If development means switching to the Western way of living nuclear and becoming more individualistic, we have certainly progressed.
If progress is about being overworked and having no personal life, we have progressed. If progress is about selling our soul for money, we definitely have progressed. If an abundance of unwanted materialism is progress, then we have.
There are some days when I feel like doing nothing. These are the days when utmost laziness creeps in. These lazy days are creative bursts for me. I believe I am doing nothing, but in the true sense, the subconscious mind comes with flowing ideas.
The art of doing nothing, leaving the phone away lying idly must be unproductive to the outside world.
We should take responsibility for our decisions. It is easy to blame others. Some people die blaming others. Instead of putting in their best effort, they nitpick about others.
It becomes significant to understand the world around us. Imagine having a boss or partner who does no work but blames you for missing out. This constant pressure will suck you.
We live such a modern life that the hustle and bustle has become part of us. We are running for one or the other things. What we get out of it depends from person to person.
There are some days when I feel like absolutely doing nothing. Those days have their significance. It helps with rejuvenating newer energy.
We are humans and not machines. The sooner we realize our significance and reasoning ability. We will become free.
Time and again, instead of living for ourselves, we end up running a race to prove others wrong or for their attention. It adds more bitterness in us than any fulfillment. Our own identity ends up being reverted to winning over others. In most instances, we fail. We lose respect and attention.
In the last 6-12 months, I have ended up meeting a few people via connections who had narcissistic behavior in them. Some will not even admit their wrongdoings. At times, they will act super sweet to get their work done. The agenda would be to get what they want. These kinds of people are the reason for our unstable society. Since most of us grew up in a protected society, we are not able to comprehend what these psychopaths are up to. They can go at any length to destroy you. They will lie, deceive, play the victim card, or try to boost their stature to make you feel low.
You should deal with such people with an iron fist and know them that we know their moves. That is the only way they will leave us. Otherwise, they will keep manipulating us, mare mortals.
: a mentally unstable person
: a person having an egocentric and antisocial personality marked by a lack of remorse for one’s actions, an absence of empathy for others, and often criminal tendencies
source: Webster
There is no cure for psychopathy. No pill can instill empathy, no vaccine can prevent murder in cold blood, and no amount of talk therapy can change an uncaring mind.
source: Yale
Met half a dozen monks sipping green tea and laughing at Marina. Theirs was the only table that was buzzing with laughter, banters, and frolic; something so uncommon in our stressful world.
The extrovert in me got curious and the next moment I was sitting with them and laughing over green tea. All of them were from different South Asian countries, and a few spoke in English.
Against all odds, obstacles, and detachment, they are living. All of them were happy. Letting go of the past, living moment to moment, and being grateful was key. This ego, attachment, vices, and seeking are making us all go nuts. We are getting sicker day by day. All your achievements, money, and status gloating mean nothing. Lastly, no one gives a damm. You are alone, you have to make peace with it.
What I dislike about our startup ecosystem is people trying hard to please others. Building a startup takes courage. It is painful and requires an unlimited grind. It is not for the faint-hearted or people for glitters. With all the money in the bank and your IVY league degree, you can still fuck up.
We need to be empathetic towards ourselves and the world around us. The “frog in the well” approach will make us bitter. All these founder awards or whatnot will add more burden on you. It does not matter.
Build relationships that last beyond your startups.