Journey

We are all travelers, moving with the earth every day. But in biological terms, we are all unique. Our thoughts, ambition, and observation significantly differ. This mismatch or the stage of our life journey distinguishes us. What one person prioritizes might be insignificant to another. This is the mismatch.

Most relationship personal or professional gets stalled because both partners are not on the same journey.

think

Have we stopped thinking? Is it because our mind is too crowded with externalities: social media, Netflix, and all? What is wrong with thinking?

Are we too scared to sit idle for a few hours doing nothing, just observing ourselves and our thoughts? Are we too afraid of our own company?

We call ourselves busy but for doing what: wasting time on things least meaningful to us? Or by stress shopping?

We rule the animal kingdom because we think, observe, and have consciousness and rationality (a few).

letting go

Letting go is a painful experience, and attachment, ego, or sunk cost: all play their role. We act like a fool and keep expecting things to work our way instead letting go.

All philosophies and religions like Buddhism, Hinduism, and Greek Stoics preached to us about it. All mentioned impermanence and the importance of living in the present.

Have you asked yourself how many days and hours you spent crying, getting angry instead of letting go of someone or something?

founder’s curse

Running a startup is not easy. I have been building Taghash for over six years and am lucky to have Krishna with me. We didn’t have a smooth sail. I felt like adding some learning to our journey. I call it the founder’s curse because as a founder, we don’t get everything.

  1. A founder’s job is lonely at the top.
  2. Founders are responsible for all the failures.
  3. The success gets distributed among all.
  4. A founder has no personal or professional life. They are 24/7 in their startup.
  5. Find a partner who understands this. Else stay unmarried or single.
  6. Your team and customers are more important than anyone else. Treat them all with care.
  7. Avoid media, press, or glitz. Focus on building business.
  8. Stay away from taking advice from any random stranger or folks. You live 24/7 in the journey. You understand the pain more than anyone else.
  9. Spend time on personal well-being. Pick yoga, running, dancing, or whatever keeps you energized.
  10. Disappear from the world, rejuvenate, read, plan and ideate.
  11. Find mentors in front of whom you are naked, who will not judge you or laugh at your vulnerabilities.

fix

We can’t fix anyone, especially who are happy living in their default. We feel like we are helping them, but the reality is that they don’t need us. We are more of a distraction in their troubled life and increases their trauma.

Time is a healer and rest all depends on self. Nobody can fix anybody unless they are willing to take external help. I have witnessed half a dozen such incidents in the last few months.

one

We live in a world divided into various dimensions: country, boundaries, colors, other cultures, and demographics. Can we get away from it and live as one world? What could be the reason for this not happening? Is it this divide that has kept civilization going?

commitment

We are a generation suffering from commitment phobia in all corners of our life. At work, it’s about what others offer with a package or role. The divergence between need and want is very evident. We saw the mass resignation episode during COVID witnessing the same. While we want all the money and independence, we are not committing to sticking long and growing with the organization. We end up thinking about what more others can offer or dampen ourselves with monotony at work.

In a relationship, we chase the never-ending wants of the best set with power, paisa(money), and pyar(love). It is like one part of our brain keeps reminding us don’t fall into a relationship because the better one is waiting on the next tinder/bumble swipe.

For some, the brain suggests how ending up in a relationship will take away all the freedom, and the other half’s dependency on love, care, and attention will be a distraction. It will hinder personal growth and kill individuality.