The more I think about life, it feels like a destination less train journey full of surprise. We are on a ride. It can be good, bad, or ugly. In sum total a mixed bag. That true north, that made in heaven things are not real. It is sold to us by the materialistic marketers.
The sooner we realize that the journey is dull, painful the better we will have our mindset in place.
Murakami in his book said: Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. I feel the same about life, journey. It reminds me of stoic philosopher Epictetus: things in our control and things not in our. Most externals are not in our control, how we react to it is what we have in our hand.
What can help in leading this journey is knowing that it is painful and our aids can help us in minimizing it. This aid can be our friends, believers, parents, and mentors.
We single day is a surprise, things will break, people will not respond as expected. But this is not the end of life. The journey must go on. It is like our life has every piece of philosophers teaching from Epicureans to Stoics to Schopenhauer or Nietzsche.