Change has to come from the inside. You can teach someone how to swim; you cannot cross the lake replacing.
There are situations in our life where we think of helping our friends and loved ones. We end up giving them pep talks and teachings. We feel good, hoping they will get better by changing moods/lifestyles.
Most of the time, people don’t need you and your philosophy of change. They love their current life, pain, and misery.