Are you in your control: your thoughts and actions? Are you aware of your shortcomings? What builds you in this life journey is: how much of life you own. It is easy to get distracted, flow in emotions, and get tormented. There could be many externalities contributing to it.
The world and society we are living in punish us for taking a different journey. It labels us as a misfit. The air of ignorance and scare prevails throughout our life. We will find more people around telling us what we should not do than letting us take the journey.
It depends on you as an individual defining yourself. It is about knowing whether you are in your control or the world around you is controlling you.