koolhead17
Raising a child is not easy.
It requires a superpowers if you are a mother.
With joint families in the past, I feel it was easier.
But in the modern world, where we are nuclear, it requires energy power and time management.
On top of this, the kid can get into mood swings. The tantrums can get in extreme mode. The society judges you on top of all this. There is fierce competition with yourself when you have decided on a life for your kid.
When people ask about your parents, they want to know if you are self-made or born with a silver spoon.
Look around and notice who is bragging on the internet. Many are born rich.
Self-made have work and legacy to leave and have ups and downs every day. They have less time for preaching.
Self-made means inheritance of intelligence, curiosity, drive, resilience, and self-determination.
Har waqt ziye ja rahe hai unke rahmo karam par, har waqt mohtaaz hai unke rehmat ke liye. Sabkuch unhone he to diya hai hame is zindgi mae, hai kya apna is zahan mae is mitti ke bani khud ki kathputliyoo ke alawa.
Hume unhone banaya aur khud ki massiha hamne bana liya, bhul gaye ke kide makodo se kam nai hai hum. Bas uske rehmat se akal aur sakal mili hai, phir bhi pata nai kis uchaaiyoo ko chone ke baat karte hai, kis baat ka ghamand karte hai hum. Hai kya he hum us surya kiran ke age, hai kya hum us samandar ke samne.
Kya ho gaya hai hame, kaise ban gaye hum phir se janwar, kaise kho diya apne mastishk ko. Hum ibadat kiya karte the khuda ko kabhi, aaz khud he khuda bann baithe hai, umeed karte hai auroo ka ki koi hamare ibadaat kare.
Apki jihazuri apke kurshi aur paise ke wazeh se ke za rahe hai, na ki apke karam ya zubaan ke wazeh se. Aap aaz hai, kal nahi rahenge, log bhul zainge apko.
Kitne fakir hue, sant aye bas jubaan ne unko zindgi bhar ke liye zanam zanmantar tak apna bana liya. Aaz bhi unki kavitayee sunte hai hum, unke fakiriyat ko yaad karte hai.
Hum hai he kya, mitti ke kathputliyaan. Aaz hai kal mitti mae mil zainge.
How does it feel when the world is against you when the world is waiting for you to make one mistake? That is when you realize it’s that single thread of trust working for you, the belief in you taking you to the path of success in spite of all the naysayers around. It’s not easy to be part of such a journey but the more I observe I witness the life of successful people. It’s the will to live, the non-ending grit of going against all odds that keeps them going.
The world can go against you, fundamentals are not in your favor still you will sail through as long as you have the will to live.
Helping others is a good virtue. But not on account of hurting ourselves. We don’t have to fall for sunk cost and realize that not everyone needs help. We have to help those who want to help themselves. We are acting as a catalyst instead of a guide.
You can take thirsty to a pond, and they should feed themselves. You don’t have to throw them in the water.
My job requires me to meet new people. Many of them carry dreams with them. I have suggested to most of them to keep dreaming. It is important to dream.
At the same time, dreaming alone is not enough. We have to take dreams to it’s destination. It requires us to take the next step. It could be working towards making dreams come true. It could be hiring someone to make your dreams come true.
There are things in our control, and there are things not in our control. The only thing which we have is our dream and working towards making it a reality.
Why do we have to compare ourselves with others? Are we all not unique? Our actions, virtues, and achievements are dependent on our hard work. What is the point of being unhappy over others’ success?
We are creatures of habit. We like simplicity and predictability. If people or organizations are not delivering up to it, we are just burning ourselves. There is no point working with someone or keeping business alignment with unpredicted people.
I have witnessed this while building our company or making sales. We have had a lot of success because the people we hired were not 10X engineers but predictable and hard-working. We knew they would deliver if they took the task in their hands.
The same goes for building our company. We are here because our customers believe in us, and we are at their service 24/7. They have seen us giving our best for their success.
In short, be it a business or relationship, ” predictability” trumps someone cheerleading or showing a high dopamine rush and disappearing.
No plan is the best plan. It ensures you are not running like a headless chicken. You are calm, living now. You have things to look forward to. You are accepting whatever comes in the future.
I have seen people living in planning mode throughout their lives. They have always lived in the future. The castle we make out of our thoughts adds pressure on us. It makes us miserable.
Many successful people I have known had the willingness to put all their hard work into the present and leave the rest. They put their best foot forward. They had no time to make a plan.
We are not chameleons. We don’t change ourselves overnight. Our past experiences, learnings, and company don’t vanish overnight. It requires decades of hard work and dedication to rewire ourselves. The problem with most of us is that we all want to be better. We like to change ourselves, but we want it to happen quickly. As a result, we get frustrated, become lazy, and give up too soon.
We have to change for ourselves first. We change because we want to be a better version of ourselves. We cannot change for others. We cannot become someone else overnight.
Lastly, we cannot keep an external incentive. We are not monkeys to dance to others’ tunes or wedding night horse dancing for money.
We are humans. We live in our thoughts. We are delicate.