koolhead17
How easy it is to live in anger like a dormant volcano. Does it help anyone? Be it a relationship or business: disagreements are part of it.
Some of us keep grudges and make things worst for everyone. We start forming our own opinions and keep everything in a prejudiced bucket.
Who does it help? None.
It is better to be an active volcano with feedback or criticism on your face rather than hiding it and burning from the inside.
Once you cross 30 years of your age, you should start taking care of your health more. The body and metabolism are not the same. We are living in a hyper-connected world with a continuous flow of information. It affects us adversely. We are social animals which result in impulsive drinking or smoking. With the advancement of mechanized foods, we are no more eating healthy.
Take care of yourself if you want to live peacefully in the later years of your life. Eat well, be healthy, exercise, sleep and stay away from tobacco and alcohol.
We all will die in the end, but getting old gracefully and decaying is better than sucking doctors and hospitals with age.
Karma is a real thing.
It will come back and hit you.
Be nice, be good, and be honest.
In the end, it is you and your consciousness. Your karma will come and bite you in one or the other ways.
Your castles and money will not fill the void with all your bad karma.
I am not perfect & paying the price in one or the other way now and then. That has been the realization resulting in writing this.
We all crave love and respect. It is easy to get angry and give feedback point-blank to your subordinates. But is it the right approach? Can this take your team far in the journey of building the rocket ship?
Why can we not make constructive criticism instead of pointing fingers? As a leader, you are responsible for everyone’s success. You have to empower your team, work with them and understand what drives everyone.
We all go through a rough phase in our life. A leader needs to understand it. They should let team members mourn, relax and come back recharged.
Money is not the only incentive that keeps the team together: a unified goal and how everyone is treated and respected as an individual matters.
In sales, it’s a simple trick and technique where your customer will throw you against your competitor. They will remind you what features you don’t have or what price point will work for them. At times they will also come back asking about being costlier. I have gone through all these scenarios.
Our market expects us to join the pit and get into pricing negotiation, so most companies have a sticker price and original price. We have not been part of this madness. As a result, we have lost a few customers.
The introspection makes me wonder if we should have followed industry practice and gotten into a negotiation like selling vegetables and haggling. The reason being a lot many of us enjoy the process and get a sense of superiority and self-gratification in winning some battle in reducing the price.
A leader’s role is temporary but the organization lasts for decades. A successful leader creates an environment and trains and motivates their team so that teaching and learning continue even in their absence.
You don’t want to be a control-free leader but create an environment where teaching philosophy has deeply ingrained within your organization. Whether you stay or not, present or absent, the organization performs to its core.
If you want the organisation to function on its own carrying your teachings and philosophy then you have to ingrain it within.
Over seven years as a community manager and an evangelist my only job was to spend time with community contributors. The thing working for me has been treating contributors as human’s first code contribution or organizing events being secondary. The same goes for gifting swags, it came last.
I still hang out with folks from Drupal, Ubuntu, Linux, OpenStack, and Minio community. I am no more an active contributor or evangelist for any. But we still talk and meet at events like FOSSDEM.
The only thing that has worked for me is being authentic, and treating people as humans first before evaluating what I will get from them.
In the last five-plus years, I have been building Taghash, a software suite for VC/PE industry and the same folks from previous relationships are helping us, in whatever way they could.
The more I see the current trend of community building, I find it is transactional and least humanly. People in general want love, care, and respect along with an appreciation for their contribution. How difficult it is to give them?
PS: I am not perfect, I have been an asshole too at times. Took me ages to learn and get better. So yes, in short, am still WIP.
In the book, “The score takes care of itself”, the Author talks about 13 leadership principles. I liked it and felt like sharing it.
What is your definition of progress?
Is becoming famous and rich a sign of progress?
The more I see these days titles where the author talks about getting rich, famous, or finding a soulmate who falls for you. I start questioning consciousness.
We and the world has become more prosperous than before. Our life expectancy has increased. We have become busier like a robot, running on calendars.
Is progress only related to accumulating material wealth, power, and fame? What about our mental peace, enjoying our solitude, and living life at our own pace? What about enjoying and living moment to moment?
We live in a world where our survival depends on how others perceive us. The reason why beauty care, fashionwear, or social media thrives.
The burden of validation impacts everyone. The person seeking validation and people in their circle.
Sometimes I wonder which came first our ego or the craving for validation. Or is anger or health issues part and parcel of this validation?
Has validation taken us, humans, beyond humanity and made us part of an endless reel where we are less real?
Do we crave validation to fulfill our inner void?
Do we crave validation because we are broken?
Do we crave validation because we are lost?