Mirror neuron

I have been living on my own for the past few years. I have control over whom to meet, where to eat and whom to indulge with. It has made my life much saner. I am not indulging with people I don’t like. I got to learn about this concept of Mirror neuron.

A mirror neuron is a neuron that fires both when an animal acts and when the animal observes the same action performed by another. Thus, the neuron “mirrors” the behavior of the other, as though the observer were itself acting. Such neurons have been directly observed in primate species.
— Wikipedia

We act and behave like people around us? Imagine working with a team of sexist or dopamine driven members.

Moments

There are those moments in our life which are priceless: holding your newborn, the first kiss, mothers hug.

We are too busy making money. The time we devote to earning supersedes over idleness.

The more and more we engulf in the daily needs forgetting these little moments. These burnt of joy which helps our heart and minds cheerful are limited.

Confusion

Confusion and misunderstanding can affect any relationship: from peers to couples to parents with kids.

Our ego makes thing more difficult. Instead of empathizing with the other side, we make a judgment.

How many friends and close ones have you parted away because of this?

With the advancement of technology, we have stopped talking face to face. From breakups to closure happens over email or WhatsApp et all.

Someone

Our mind is occupied with our urges. These could be self-created around our desires. Our desire to be someone we are not.

Desire is like a void, the wanting to make an elephant run at a horse race.

Marketers and advertisers have been selling us hope. Hope aligned with our purchasing power to become someone.

From crap like cola to nachos, we have celebrity endorsements. We are sold an idea of becoming like someone.

Why do we have to become someone?

Hiring

Hiring is not a challenge and is never a pain for startups. If you are running a startup, as a founder it is your job to spearhead the hiring process. Early employees are no less than owners of a startup.

These simple questions will in itself give you the answers:

  1. Are you honest with your team?
  2. How much ownership are you willing to share with the team members?
  3. Do you strive for a goal mindset of real or those are just tweets?
  4. What is the turnaround time for the hiring process?
  5. Are you inculcating virtue of empathy, openness, and diversity?

Competition

We are competing in every sphere of our life.

From finding college sweetheart to campus placements. From promotion to offshore opportunity.

Even getting love and attention from siblings and parents we are competing.

What about competing with our allocated time in this life, how are we utilizing it?

How about competing with ourselves, killing a vice and becoming a better version?

Service

I keep hearing about the funding news and how a startup is now a unicorn. I wish there was a similar announcement of metrics for customer satisfaction.

If I am paying for a service, I expect it to be delivered well. While the price of luxury has increased over time, services have gone bad.

Ask yourself and let me know why are you using hyperlocal apps, hotel aggregators app or a travel aggregators app?

Is it for service or cheaper price?

Listen

I have never been a great listener. Ben Franklin and stoics considered listening as an important virtue. I am realizing this as my weakness and trying to work on getting better at it.

At the same time, I had opinions on everything. It resulted in fostering animosity with many.

Fear

Fear brings the worst out of us. We end up imagining many unreal events. It makes us weak.

Fear has fostered in creating many communities and religion. The fear of isolation resulted in forming many unwanted relationships.

Why is it so easy for us to be fearful? Is it more to do with our consciousness, upbringing or DNA?

Jiddu Krishnamurti says “freedom begins once we get over the fear.” Fear comes with mental misery.