Random Thoughts: living in present

I quit my  full time job in April. Over these few months I have spent good time in reading & mostly philosophy.

The common learning from it for me has been is living in this present moment.  

  1. During school days, we work hard and plan/aim for getting admission to some college, university if we fail, we become unhappy and sometimes take extreme steps.
  2. Liked someone for years but never had courage to say so and all off a sudden get to see her/his wedding pics floating on  timeline [social media]
  3. We fall in love, plan for living together entire life, things fall apart and we get depressed, stop believing in Love overall.
  4. We are so busy at work for hope of getting promotions or incentives that we keep delaying our visit to parents & all of a sudden we get to know he/she is no more.
  5. We aspire to start or venture into something but so scared of failure that even though things are rough at current workplace we have our ass hooked.
  6. We avoid talking to someone or venturing into challenge again because we failed being successful in past.

What is going on here?

  1. We are postponing our actions.
  2. We are scared of failure.
  3. We are too focussed on our future.
  4. Our prejudice got more powerful in decision making.

Why?

We are living in this society which has certain protocol & we are conditioned to follow.

  1. A society where failure is considered stigma.
  2. A society where life partners or match making is done on your height, color and physical appearance. Not what you are as an individual.
  3. A society where taking bold steps for doing things now is considered full of risk and has no support system from family or friends.
  4. A society where religion divides country & relationships among we humans.
  5. A society where you take birth, study, take job, get married, raise kids and die. Anything else makes you a misfit.
  6. A society which has taken away our power of questioning the authority or stakeholders.

THINK, if you want to remain on an autopilot of future or past biases or Live a life NOW.

Notes from Reading: Think Simple, How Smart Leaders Defeat Complexity

This was one of the very first book I have read about Apple, Ken Segall {author} was part of external team which came up with some beautiful advertisement for Apple.  In this book he shares all his experince about working with Steve Jobs, culture at Apple and what makes it unique company.

These are some of my Kindle notes from the book:

    1. Minimizing the choices provides customers with a simpler path, a better value, and a happier frame of mind.
    2. Charging excessive prices and offering confusing choices make customers feel like they’re being squeezed for every extra dollar.
    3. The easiest way to screw up a project is to give it too much time—enough time for people to rethink, revise, have second thoughts, invite others into the project, get more opinions, conduct tests, etc.
    4. To achieve great things, two things are needed; a plan, and not quite enough time.
    5. Apple continues to market its products as it always has in an emotional, human manner, pointing out benefits rather than specs.
    6. When people trust a brand and see real value in it, they’re willing to pay more for it. If you have a strong brand, as Apple does today, you can charge a premium price and people will line up to pay it. Profit margins are high.
    7. You can tell a lot about someone by the people he or she admires.
    8. Apple at the core, its core value, is that we believe that people with passion can change the world for the better.
    9. The common problem dealing with any client. Once they’ve fallen in love with something you don’t like, the only way to really move them off of it is to show them something better.
    10. Interesting thing about the way Steve Jobs worked. He had an opinion. A very strong opinion. The kind of opinion that might knock you over and kick you a few times. But that’s not to say he wasn’t reasonable or wouldn’t ultimately change his mind if confronted with heartfelt opinions presented with passion.
    11. Apple doesn’t just keep naming simple for the sake of brand-building. It keeps naming simple so it doesn’t confuse the hell out of people. At the end of the day, that’s what Simplicity does best. With perfect clarity, it tells customers who you are and what you sell.
    12. Complexity has a nasty habit of snatching defeat from the jaws of victory.
    13. At the end of the day, most businesses come down to relationships. A less formal presentation with honest debate is the way to strengthen your relationships—and get better results.
    14. From the beginning, Apple has succeeded because it makes products that reflect human values.
    15. Apple believed that what the music player category needed most was Simplicity, and whichever company delivered it would soon be “running this planet.”
    16. One can’t have a deep feeling for Simplicity without being able to appreciate human values and understand what drives human behavior.
    17. What’s made Apple’s messaging successful is that it doesn’t really try to be anything. It simply acts like itself—which is one of Simplicity’s guiding lights. It’s more believable, it’s more authentic, it’s more simple.
    18. Strong customer loyalty translates to repeat sales and creates evangelists who recruit friends, family, and colleagues. Loyalty like this feeds on itself, receiving a new jolt with each successive product introduction.
    19. Lawyers play a big role in the marketing business. They come in handy when a company gets sued for a few billion dollars.
    20.  Sometimes it just requires a special strength to fight your way toward a goal when the naysayers are convinced you’re heading down a path of doom.
    21. When you first start off trying to solve a problem, the first solutions you come up with are very complex, and most people stop there. But if you keep going, and live with the problem and peel more layers of the onion off, you can oftentimes arrive at some very elegant and simple solutions.
    22. Sometimes when you innovate, you make mistakes. It is best to admit them quickly, and get on with improving your other innovations.
    23. When there’s a healthy balance in the brand bank, customers are more willing to ride out the tough times. With a low balance, they might be more tempted to cut and run.

Notes from Reading: Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari

First thing first, Modern Romance is not a guide for finding hook-up or soulmate. 🙂

ok let’s continue further. Aziz Ansari is a seasoned standup comedian. He wrote this book mentioning his encounter with women via online dating. The book mostly talks about all sides of online dating & how horizon of meeting THAT PERFECT MATCH has changed.  His finding are backed with data.  I can admit that I had no clue that dating is a science. One has to learn it and like excel in it.

Some of the most weird learning :

  1. If a someone says she is busy, it means she is not interested [considering you asked her out more then once]
  2. Dating is a big pool with options & everyone is in hurry, kind of photo you put as profile picture can make break it [tinder era]
  3. Your response time to a msg also decides on your chances by other side [like really WTF]
  4. Don’t start conversation with just hello [umm, talk about Donald Trump maybe]
  5. Repressive society/countires like gulf youths are making full use of dating, they organize hotel parties meetups. [socializing under burqa via online dating platform]
  6. Online dating has given rise to cheating. [umm.. ok]
  7. People these days breakup via whatsapp, Imsg [I am not surprised]
  8. Sexting is a big thing & most youth are fine with it. [apparently it is a breather for long distance relationship]
  9. Open Relationship is a trend and both partners are cool with it. [umm… once in while we will find some one else via dating site & go hookup]
  10. While some people blame online dating for many problems, many folks are getting married. [yum, people getting married after swiping RIGHT via Tinder]

Umm.. All I can say, I had great weekend and good learning/understanding after reading this. Thanks Aziz , peace Brother. 🙂

Tip: Hear him say a lot on same on Netflix , he sums up these issues beautifully there. 😀

On being a connector

I have always liked meeting people, talking to them. This seems to be one of the main reason why I enjoy being a connector. At number of occasions i have been asked few questions, I have added them with my thoughts.

1. Is connector a job title?

I would say no, It is not. You don’t need a work title to be a connector. The most important characteristics of a connector is to connect. The connection can be in many forte from connecting a talented candidate to great organization to helping someone looking for expert advice while he is in process of his PHD thesis. 

2. Do I get paid for connecting people?

Yes, I do get paid. I get paid as karma, coffee and opportunity to walk to the life of many interesting folks. My currency is getting to know and get connected to many more people. I consider it as a chain reaction.

3. Can anyone be a connector?

Yes, we are social being. Society separates us from other animals on this planet. So all you have to do is to help those who needs it.

4. How do I connect people?

Mostly via e-mails. On an average I fire one-two email everyday introducing one friend to another. I exit the conversation after that.

5. Can I use social media for being connector?

Yes, absolutely. I understand for many social media is a place 4 venting anger & for others selling brands. At same time, social media has great set of people who are always open to help. So you need to be humble, empathetic and honest for all the love & connections.

6. Did I ever ended up getting screwed for making connections?

It has happened sometimes yes :

  • I connected someone desperately looking for job, in month time he left the job and switched for higher payment.
  • Recommended someone as consultant in an organization & he ended up bitching about me to make himself & his work look good.

7. What has been the learning from this journey?

Do not push/force or be opinionated, just connect and walk away. If you will give advice or stress, you might end up being the bad guy in the process.

If you are a connector, please share your tips. It will help me in getting better.

Notes from Reading: As One Is, To Free the Mind from All Conditioning

Spent last week reading J Krishnamurti, As one is. It is a discourse where Jiddu in his typical style takes questions and answers them. This book mostly consists of questions about conditioning, society & life.

These are some of my Kindle notes from it :

  1. When the mind is free from all conditioning, then you will find that there comes the creativity of reality, of God, or what you will, and it is only such a mind, a mind which is constantly experiencing this creativity, that can bring about a different outlook, different values, a different world.
  2. One must have immense patience to find out what is true.
  3. Most of us are impatient to get on, to find a result, to achieve a success, a goal, a certain state of happiness.
  4. It is one of the most difficult things to free the mind from this desire to find a result.
  5. As long as one’s instrument of thinking is not clear, is perverted, conditioned, whatever one thinks is bound to be limited, narrow.
  6. There is such a thing as God, only when the mind is free from all conditioning.
  7. When the mind is free from all conditioning, then you will find that there comes the creativity of reality, of God, or what you will, and it is only such a mind, a mind which is constantly experiencing this creativity, that can bring about a different outlook, different values, a different world.
  8. Self-knowledge is the beginning of wisdom. Self-knowledge is not according to some psychologist, book, or philosopher but it is to know oneself as one is from moment to moment.
  9. To know oneself is to observe what one thinks, how one feels, not just superficially, but to be deeply aware of what is without condemnation, without judgment, without evaluation or comparison.
  10. Our problem is not what societies you should belong to, what kind of activities you should indulge in, what books you should read, and all that superficial business, but how to free the mind from conditioning.
  11. The mind can be free only when it is completely still.
  12. Freeing the mind from conditioning is the ending of sorrow.
  13. the mind is incapable of looking at a fact like envy without bringing in the vast complex of opinions, judgments, evaluations with which the mind is occupied—so we never resolve the fact but multiply the problems.
  14. Whether a mind is occupied with God, with truth, with sex, or with drink, its quality is essentially the same.
  15. The present social structure is based on envy, on acquisitiveness, in which is implied conformity, acceptance of authority, the perpetual fulfillment of ambition, which is essentially the self, the ‘me’ striving to become something.
  16. You are the result of society.
  17. When a confused man seeks, his search is based on confusion, and therefore what he finds is further confusion.
  18. A mind that cannot stand alone, search will have no meaning at all. To stand alone is to be uncorrupted, innocent, free of all tradition, of dogma, of opinion, of what another says, and so on.
  19. Our opinions, our beliefs, our desires, ambitions, are so strong, we are so weighed down by them, that we are incapable of looking at the fact. The fact plus opinion, judgment, evaluation, ambition, and all the rest of it, brings about confusion.
  20. Any action born of confusion must lead to further confusion, further turmoil, all of which reacts on the body, on the nervous system, and produces illness.
  21. The understanding of the self brings about wisdom and right action.
  22. Creativity is something that comes into being only when the mind is in a state of no effort.
  23. Your mind is the known; it is shaped by memories, by reactions, by impressions of the known; and a mind that is held within the field of the known can never comprehend or experience the unknown, something which is not within the field of time.
  24. As long as we are seeking or giving a significance to life, we are missing something extraordinarily vital. It is like the man who wants to find the significance of death, who is everlastingly rationalizing it, explaining it—he never experiences what is death.
  25. When you are totally attentive, you have no time to compare,
  26. In the moment of attention the self, the ‘me’, is absent, and it is that moment of attention that is good, that is love.
  27. In grappling with this problem of progress and revolution, there must be an awareness, a comprehension of the total process of consciousness.
  28. If the problem is stated clearly and clearly understood, then you will find the absolute answer.
  29. A man who wishes to find out what is creativity must obviously be free from all envy, from all comparison, from the urges to be, to become.
  30. A man whose mind is occupied with God will never find God because God is not something to be occupied with; it is the unknown, the immeasurable.
  31. If you are occupied with your work, then you do not love your work.
  32. If I love what I am doing, I am not occupied with it, my work is not apart from me.
  33. To love something there must be a total cessation of all ambition, of all desire for the recognition of society, which is rotten anyhow.
  34. When you love a thing, there is no occupation with it.
  35. No culture helps man to find out what is true. Cultures only create organizations which bind man.
  36. Distraction exists only when you want to go in a certain direction.
  37. Cultures create religions but not the religious man.  The religious man comes into being only when the mind rejects culture, which is the background, and is therefore free to find out what is true. Cultures only create organizations which bind man.
  38. It is only when the mind is free from all sense of inward dependence that it can find that which is immeasurable.
  39. What you call knowledge is essentially memory.
  40. The mind is always seeking something, and that very search brings violence, competition, the sense of utter dissatisfaction.

 

Another birthday & set of challenges ahead

Celebrated my birthday few days back, like most  I too have some plans for this year.

  1.  Finish one book every week
  2. Write everyday
  3.  Get more proficient in Python and learn more in field of data science
  4.  Improve on speaking skills aka soft skills
  5.  Pick up some statistics
  6.  Become more aware about self and in taking any decisions, keeping prejudice and bias away
  7.  Call parents twice a week and video conference once in month
  8. Work even harder and improve on my skills so that I don’t have to work for anyone else in life
  9. Take break and visit Mother Nature  every 3 months
  10.  Avoid distractions aka social media consumption
  11. Speak less & avoid giving unsolicited advice, everyone is smart and are well equipped with source of knowledge
  12. Speak at 2-3 tech conference & engage, learn from smart developers
  13. Take control on personal finance and diversify the investment
  14.  Get into habit of sleeping early
  15. Learn speaking and communicating in either Nepali or Bengali fluently.
  16. Finish up publishing the e-books, content of which are sleeping in my google drive for ages
  17. Publish few podcasts every month

I am happy with the fact that I was able to put in system for most of what i wanted to improve on , need to complete with the Star Trek series.

With age:

  1. Stop giving FUCK on things which are meaningless to us
  2. More importance to personal health
  3. Start searching for that group to sail you though for life, friends are important
  4. Become more empathic
  5. Become more forgiving

Notes from Reading: Failing to Succeed, The Story of India’s First E-Commerce Company

Failing to Succeed: The Story of India’s First E-Commerce Company is written by founder of IndiaPlaza, K Vaitheeswaran.

The book is real life journey of author in building brand IndiaPlaza, his learnings and  failures.  I would strongly advice every stakeholder in our startup ecosystem to read this book.

This book will walk you through the other side of building startup in India, which is not sexy/cool as the media or our government depicts. This book is contender for a blockbuster movie script. 🙂

These are my take away from the book:

  1. Having a great co-founder increases chance of startup success.
  2. India has enough talent pool, hiring necessarily should not be done from limited marquee institution.
  3. When time gets tough you get to know about real friends.
  4. Luck and timing is equally important for starting up.
  5. Fundraising is relatively easy for Alumni from marquee institutions.
  6. Starting up is not for poor souls, it requires immense hard work.
  7. Funding will only escalate your problems for time being, it will not fix it.
  8. Glittery buzzwords like GMV, app downloads will get you funding but getting real customers who will pay requires customer service, love and empathy.
  9. Discount is what drives we Indians from offline to online. (most of us)
  10. Having a trusted partners as co-founder, investor makes startup journey more fruitful.

I will let you all read and come up with your summery. 🙂

Notes from reading: Don’t make me think, Steve Krug

Steve Krug is a famous user experince expert.  His job includes providing advice to big web development and enterprise firms on usability of web properties like web portals, mobile platform or CRM.

In this book he shares some of the secrets of great user experience and user interface.  The gist of the book is clear with the title “Don’t make me think”  

Below is a slide with my learnings from the book.

Notes from reading: Zen And The Art Of Motorcycle Maintenance

I got to know about Zen And The Art Of Motorcycle Maintenance book via my friend Prateek on Facebook. He suggested that I should read this book since I been reading a lot of Philosophy all this while.

Just the spoiler, the book is not entirely about motorcycle maintenance instead an account of author’s motorcycle trip from Minnesota to California with his young son Chris, a philosophical meditation on the concept of Quality, and the story of a man pursued by the ghost of his former self. The book is written by Robert Pirsig , who passed away recently at age of 88.

These are some of my kindle notes from the book: 

  1. The world exists as a conflict and tension of opposites.
  2. Man is the measure of all things.
  3. A good student seeks knowledge fairly and impartially.
  4. According to Socrates both rhetoric and cooking are branches of pandering – pimping – because they appeal to the emotions rather than true knowledge.
  5. If you want to be happy just change your mind.
  6. The passions are characterized as the destroyer of understanding, and Phaedrus (auther) wonders if this is where the condemnation of the passions so deeply buried in Western thought got its start.
  7. Some say the good is found in happiness, but how do we know what happiness is? And how can happiness be defined? Happiness and good are not objective terms.
  8. I survive mainly by pleasing others. You do that to get out. To get out you figure out what they want you to say and then you say it with as much skill and originality as possible and then, if they’re convinced, you get out.
  9. When a shepherd goes to kill a wolf, and takes his dog to see the sport, he should take care to avoid mistakes.  The dog has certain relationships to the wolf the shepherd may have forgotten.
  10. The mythos (myth) that says the forms of this world are real but the Quality of this world is unreal, that is insane.
  11. There are worse things than hiding in the shadows.
  12. Goals must be scaled down in importance and immediate goals must be scaled up.
  13. Impatience is best handled by allowing an indefinite time for the job, particularly new jobs that require unfamiliar techniques; by doubling the allotted time when circumstances force time planning; and by scaling down the scope of what you want to do.
  14. Impatience is the first reaction against a setback and can soon turn to anger if you’re not careful.
  15. My favorite cure for boredom is sleep. It’s very easy to get to sleep when bored and very hard to get bored after a long rest. My next favorite is coffee.
  16. When you make the mistakes yourself, you at least get the benefit of some education.
  17. Boredom  is the opposite of anxiety and commonly goes with ego problems. Boredom means you’re off the Quality track.
  18. If your values are rigid you can’t really learn new facts.
  19. The facts do not exist until value has created them.
  20. The birth of a new fact is always a wonderful thing to experience.
  21. When false information makes you look good, you’re likely to believe it.
  22. Your ego isolates you from the Quality reality.
  23. You’re so sure you’ll do everything wrong you’re afraid to do anything at all.
  24. You can reduce your anxiety somewhat by facing the fact that there isn’t a mechanic alive who doesn’t louse up a job once in a while.
  25. Information that fixes one model can sometimes wreck another.
  26. Peace of mind produces right values, right values produce right thoughts.
  27. Right thoughts produce right actions and right actions produce work which will be a material reflection for others to see of the serenity at the center of it all.
  28. When one isn’t dominated by feelings of separateness from what he’s working on, then one can be said to ‘care’ about what he’s doing. That is what caring really is, a feeling of identification with what one’s doing. When one has this feeling then he also sees the inverse side of caring, Quality itself.
  29. Peace of mind is a prerequisite for a perception of that Quality which is beyond romantic Quality and classic Quality and which unites the two, and which must accompany the work as it proceeds.
  30. This inner peace of mind occurs on three levels of understanding:Physical quietness, Mental quietness and Value quietness  . Physical quietness seems the easiest to achieve, although there are levels and levels of this too, as attested by the ability of Hindu mystics to live buried alive for many days. Mental quietness, in which one has no wandering thoughts at all, seems more difficult, but can be achieved. But value quietness, in which one has no wandering desires at all but simply performs the acts of his life without desire, that seems the hardest.
  31. The past cannot remember the past. The future can’t generate the future. The cutting edge of this instant right here and now is always nothing less than the totality of everything there is.
  32. The passions, the emotions, the affective domain of man’s consciousness, are a part of nature’s order too.
  33. Your mind gets stuck when you’re trying to do too many things at once.
  34. A person who sees Quality and feels it as he works is a person who cares. A person who cares about what he sees and does is a person who’s bound to have some characteristics of Quality.
  35. When you live in the shadow of insanity, the appearance of another mind that thinks and talks as yours does is something close to a blessed event.
  36. People differ about Quality, not because Quality is different, but because people are different in terms of experience
  37. The past exists only in our memories, the future only in our plans. The present is our only reality.
  38. The reason people see Quality differently, he said, is because they come to it with different sets of analogues.
  39. when the world is seen not as a duality of mind and matter but as a trinity of quality, mind, and matter, then the art of motorcycle maintenance and other arts take on a dimension of meaning they never had.
  40. Changes aren’t always peaceful.
  41. People disagreed with Quality because some just used their immediate emotions whereas others applied their overall knowledge.
  42. If everyone knows what quality is, why is there such a disagreement about it?
  43. Don’t base your decisions on romantic surface appeal without considering classical underlying form.
  44. In today’s world, ideas that are incompatible with scientific knowledge don’t get off the ground.
  45. When you are trained to despise ‘just what you like’ then, of course, you become a much more obedient servant of others – a good slave.
  46. The competence of a speaker has no relevance to the truth of what he says
  47. When you learn not to do ‘just what you like’ then the System loves you.
  48. A real understanding of Quality captures the System, tames it, and puts it to work for one’s own personal use, while leaving one completely free to fulfill his inner destiny. Quality is just the focal point around which a lot of intellectual furniture is getting rearranged. If Quality exists in the object, then you must explain just why scientific instruments are unable to detect it.
  49. Any effort that has self-glorification as its final endpoint is bound to end in disaster.
  50. ‘Quality is a characteristic of thought and statement that is recognized by a nonthinking process. Because definitions are a product of rigid, formal thinking, quality cannot be defined.’

Notes from reading: The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin

This week I picked up The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin by Benjamin Franklin. I was fascinated with a single fact that how can someone be so talented. Like  Benjamin Franklin  was a Writer, Inventor,  Philosopher, Negotiation and last not the least one of the forefathers of  American Independence. Fun fact thought, he was born British.

I am going to add about the 13 virtues as Benjamin Franklin calls it, a daily todo practice which made him so focussed & successful in managing his time.

1. TEMPERANCE. Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.

2. SILENCE. Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.

3. ORDER. Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.

4. RESOLUTION. Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.

5. FRUGALITY. Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i. e., waste nothing.

6. INDUSTRY. Lose no time; be always employ’d in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.

7. SINCERITY. Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly; and, if you speak, speak accordingly.

8. JUSTICE. Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.

9. MODERATION. Avoid extremes; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.

10. CLEANLINESS. Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, clothes, or habitation.

11. TRANQUILLITY. Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.

12. CHASTITY. Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dulness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another’s peace or reputation.

13. HUMILITY. Imitate Jesus and Socrates.

Daily Schedule of Benjamin Franklin
Daily Schedule of Benjamin Franklin
The checklist with Benjamin Franklin's 13 virtues.
The checklist with Benjamin Franklin’s 13 virtues.