trust

A lot of my friends tell me I trust people easily. As a result, I suffer. I don’t know about the suffering part. One thing is sure: radical trust has been a mixed bag for me. I have made lifelong friends, lost money, and suffered emotionally. All of it has happened. But when I see the bigger picture, it has been a net positive for me.

The advantage of radical trust has been that I am all in, and without a doubt, I give my 100%. I understand the downside of it.

I have the option to be a radical trustworthy or a cynic. I choose to be former as it gives me a good night’s sleep and less heart pressure.

focus

Focus is absent in a hyper-connected world with gadgets and mobile apps available around the clock.
I still remember growing up controlling the Internet and television purview.
We were less distracted and grew up taking limited knowledge.
As I aged, with time learned and gained knowledge with time.

Our time on this planet is limited.
We can progress in life and relationship only by being focused.
We should invest our limited time in a more focused manner.

We can learn from plants and animals around us.
Our mobile apps, notifications, useless meetings, and catchups should be limited.

parchai

apni parchai me hum unko dekh liya karte the kabhi, ab to aalam ye hai ki parchai se dur bhag jane ko ji karta hai.

Itne sapne dikhaye the hame un dino zindgi nae, ab to sapne me zane se bhi darta hai.

Milna, bicharna to ab mausum sa jano lagta hai. Ek cheeze he saath reh gaya hai mere wo hai mera ahankaar aur na zindgi ko chorne ki zidd. Uske alawa zindgi ko apne marzi se to zee he raha hu mae: apne chaal me, apne usuloo pe.

Ab koi khauff nai hai na he koi kami hai. Ab to sabkuch jana pechchana sa lagta hai. Log aate, zate hai apke zingdi se, kuch bana dete hai apko umer bhar ke liye to kuch chor zate hai apko har tareh ke chott ke saath.

Zina to hoga he hame, akele apne aap ke saath. Ye auro ke liye zi zee ke aap kab tak fanna hote rahenge.

role

In an organization, we all have a defined role. We have to strive to be the best at it. Some people try to become change-makers and start changing the system. It affects us and the existing system and process. Does it help? We don’t know. But does the management need or be interested in these changes? We don’t know.

Why do we have to run pillar and post to cure our itch? We can be best at our role. Why do we have to lose focus or ride on multiple areas.

You are the chosen one to execute something at brilliance. Focus on it.

permanent

Nothing is permanent in life.
The sooner we accept it, the more we will be at peace.
People we meet, relationships we make, and jobs we are part of all change with time.

Is our health, life, or attraction over some worldly asset or beauty permanent? Ask yourself. We age, our body rots, and beauty fades.

The only thing we have is our thoughts. It can make and break us.

Resistance

I am 60 pages through the war of art book, and the author speaks of “Resistance” in it. The more I read and think, I feel it’s our every-minute struggle with the monkey mind. We are lazy. We dislike change, and we prefer quick wins in life.

Resistance is nothing but the vice that is a blocker in our progress at work or personal life. We find it everywhere: hiding in taking life-altering decisions to put a strict timeline and finishing things.

We become resistant by default and halt our progress. We start crafting, finding reasons to become a slave to it. We complain, cry, blame do everything instead of fighting it.

Complain

Some of us are walking list of complaints. They have problems with everything. It’s like a man with hammer syndrome, but hammer being “complain.”

This kind of person will suck your brain and blood. They will always be in fight mode. I feel empathetic to them and the people who live with them, their families, and their peers. It is not easy to live with a hot furnace or people finding faults.

We understand this world is not a utopia. It gives us more reason to fix it. How will we fix ourselves if all we are busy with is complaining instead of looking within, accepting our vulnerability, and taking help?

Are our ego and unhealthy self above everything else for us?

determination

Determination to do something or making up a mind to take steps is like a superpower. Many of us don’t start because of the fear of failure.

Once you are determined, you know what you don’t need. In these scenarios, you end up crafting your path and journey. You are beyond the status quo or copying someone else’s path.

This results in experimenting, failing, and learning. On top of all, you are the master of your ship and well aware of the consequences.

Relationship

Relationships require trust and mutual respect. We are all unique souls working together and making the journey sail through. It is not some transaction.

The modern world has made relationships like swag or some tag attached to ourselves. As a result, the overall reason for the relationship has changed. It has gone all society and social media-centric instead the joy of togetherness.

We don’t have to be in a relationship or drag it to avoid the sunk cost. We are dying every moment. Our mental and physical well-being should take precedence.

Depression

I finished reading Matt Haig’s book reasons to stay alive. In the book, the author talks about his journey in battling depression.

On page 173, he summarizes: Depression is as

An internal war.
A black hole
An invisible fire
A pressure cooker
A devil inside
A prison
An absence
A malicious code in the operating system of your mind
A parallel universe
An echo chamber
Dark hopeless & lonely

I have been around people fighting depression off late and my journey in my late 20s. I could resonate well with the author’s take.