commitment

We are a generation suffering from commitment phobia in all corners of our life. At work, it’s about what others offer with a package or role. The divergence between need and want is very evident. We saw the mass resignation episode during COVID witnessing the same. While we want all the money and independence, we are not committing to sticking long and growing with the organization. We end up thinking about what more others can offer or dampen ourselves with monotony at work.

In a relationship, we chase the never-ending wants of the best set with power, paisa(money), and pyar(love). It is like one part of our brain keeps reminding us don’t fall into a relationship because the better one is waiting on the next tinder/bumble swipe.

For some, the brain suggests how ending up in a relationship will take away all the freedom, and the other half’s dependency on love, care, and attention will be a distraction. It will hinder personal growth and kill individuality.

Nothing

Doing nothing in itself is an experiment in itself.
Can you sit idle for a few hours doing nothing?
With enough money in your account, can you quit your job for a few months doing nothing?

All our lifetime, we crave idleness. When we get the opportunity, we don’t cease it.

Most of the masterpiece in arts, music, and literature is the result of doing nothing. It is this absolute idleness where the mind works its best.

gateway

We are all busy with our daily life.
The daily chores end up making our life hectic and stressful.
Some of us pick hobbies like running, dancing, singing, etc.
A few pick alcohol or drugs as an aid to forget reality or challenges in life temporarily.

Our exit gateway should rejuvenate us to live our real life more ferociously. Pick your gateway wisely.

priority

In a relationship or in business, priority takes precedence over emotions. Why will someone buy your product when they have no pain? Or why will someone buy your product when they have no money to pay?

Why will someone get attached to you when they are not emotionally available and; when their constant struggle is everyday survival?

We see the world with our lens and perimeter instead every stakeholder.

monster

There is a monster within which keeps nudging. It gets harsh at times and makes us go mad. At other times it gives us all the peaceful melody.

Our focus, concentration, and every habit get affected by this nudge, this sound, or the feeling.

Have you tried locking in the room and sitting for a few hours without doing anything, free from all distractions?

Try doing it, and you will get to meet that monster.

pick

It took me some time to realize the difference between a hot lead and a qualified lead or a waste of time. I have a software developer background and have picked sales and customer support roles in my hand. It helps me map customer pain and build a product.

In limited marker size, being focused and serving believers helps. The default wisdom of mass mailing or advertisement does not work.

In the noisy and glamorous world of unicorns and fundraising, solving customer pain and delighting them gets missed.

You have to pick your field and ace accordingly.

Expect

Bhagwad Gita says that expectation is evil & cause of all our misery. Epictetus talks about things in your control is your consciousness.

We are living in a society trapped with materialistic needs and making everyone happy around us. Marriage and relationships with loved ones have turned into a transaction. We have gone into undefined wants and needs causing enormous pain ourselves.

What actions of others will make us sad, unhappy, or pleasureful: even we don’t know. The expectation of respect, reciprocity, power, and love from others makes us sicker.

child

I am halfway through “the body keeps its score.” It talks about the human mind and trauma. In one chapter author talks about how traumatic childhood results in making a monster as an adult. The negligence of parents resulting in physical torture and sexual abuse leaving a scar for life.

It takes a village to raise a child, a famous quote. We live in a fast pace & matchbox (apartments) in isolation makes it traumatic for the baby. When everyone is working and busy, the kid becomes a piece of furniture. They miss love and care for their emotional growth.

Your kid ends up growing immature and emotionally imbalanced and does more havoc on society. So be very careful before deciding to raise a child.

Your kid needs more than a babysitter, cartoon network, and YouTube ad-free on mobile. They need all your attention, love, comfort, and care.

Some of my friends are wise. They have adopted cats instead of having a kid because they know how impossible it will be for them to raise kids.