together

One positive side of a small startup is the bond, togetherness. Everything else comes afterward. The happy, sad moments, cry, laugh, and celebrations we are all together in it. The first sales close, customers appreciation mail, Whatsapp message. It forms a small part of our life’s journey. After all, nothing is permanent.

Money decides your friend circle or who will pick, respond to your phone call, email. Even after having all the money, we crave love, respect, care and, empathy.

Belongingness shared purpose and, “I have got you covered is what brings us all closer.”

We are all playing together as a team and together aiming for the win. We have a limited time. It will help if we are all together for the cause; otherwise, money is just money: even a robber, gangster, thieve earns it.

Mindset

I am reading: Think Again by Adam Grant. In the first chapter, he mentions the three different mindsets as told by his friend: preacher, prosecutor, and politicians.

We get into preachers mode when our sacred beliefs are in jeopardy: we deliver sermons to protect and promote our ideals. We enter prosecutor mode when we recognize flaws in other person’s reasoning: we marshal arguments to prove them wrong and win our cases. We shift into politician mode when we are seeking to win over an audience: we campaign and lobby for the approval of our constituents.

If you are on Twitter, you can witness thought leaders, propagandists, sellers: all in your timeline. Why don’t you start categorizing them and their sermons? 🙂

Yoga

Yoga is a new cool. It creates a billion $$ worth of income and jobs for social media millennials who educate their followers. Consumerism is a flavor of our society and, Yoga is riding on it. I hope it does good for our civilization. The Indian government is also encouraging the movement. 

I have been practicing pranayama(mindfulness according to Americans) for over 7-8 years and, I see it helping me. 

During my school days, I did Yoga and Gymnastics both and, it has been one reason for body flexibility even now in my 30’s. 

Last week I spoke to a friend in my hometown about not getting enough sleep. His suggestion was to do Sirsasana. It has been four days and, I have been sleeping like a baby. 

I have also bought a copy of the book from Bihar School of Yoga. It is like going back to the roots. 

rickshaw

Machine thore hai jo button dabaye aur phurr se chal Diya, mehnat lagte hai isme babu.

Munni, reena sabki saadi dekhi hai babu. School se college tak, Ek baar mayakee Bhi le Gaye the Gupta Ji ki bete ko.

Abb to lagta hai pura janam ji liya, Abb wo baat nahi reh gaye duniya me. said Ramu.

I was sipping Chai and Smoking Bidi with Ramu, the Rikshaw puller. He is fifty-five now, still more active than urban code monkeys. He would drop us at our school in our early childhood. Our school was thirty minutes rickshaw ride.

Those days Rickshaw were the rulers of the streets. There were limited motorcycles and, the car was for riches. 

I would end up meeting Ramu on most of my home visits. My house is closer to the bus stop and also an unofficial stand for Rickshawalas. They would sit, talk, laugh and go merry among peers. 

This January, I met Ramu again. Same intoxicating smile with a smeared ash on his forehead. Just the mustache has gone haywire this time. It might be because of COVID. I hardly felt any social distancing or mask-wearing rule followed. 

Atul babu, naya saal ghar pe?

Haan Ramu. 

Is saal bhoj hoga ki nahi? Hum mar zainge. [His way of asking if I am getting married this year.]

Socha Nahi. Bidi doge Ramu?

Subeh subeh kahe?

Chai bhi piyenge. 

We went for a ride to a newly opened park on the other side of the city. We were visiting there for poori, jalebi, and sabji. 

Ramu had a lot of news for me.

  1. His both son and family are back in the village. 
  2. Younger grandson has opened a mobile repair shop. He got the training when he was in Delhi. 
  3.  His cows gave a few calves.
  4. His sons are renovating their house.

 He thanks Corona for uniting the family. Both sons want to stay at home and focus on agriculture. They are not interested in working in Delhi factories. 

I had no updates to share with him and, I could sense his annoyance.

After gulping poori, sabzi, and jalebi, I requested Ramu that I will walk back home by myself. The distance would not suffice for the amount I had eaten. I offered him some money, and like always, he went numb. He cried in happiness and said, “Apne Bachoo se kya paise Lena.” I hugged him and dropped some money in his pocket, and walked away.

hero

Hero Banoge? Bhaiya star hai, screamed the guy sitting few seats away from me. I was returning home from south ex in a DTC bus. I wonder what made sardarji say this, was he intoxicated? I got down at the Punjabi Bagh club bus stand and walked towards Paschim vihar, not without gulping some paani poori near the Punja Bagh club.

I saw Sardarji, Mika waving at me. He mentioned his brother has worked in a few Balaji telefilms soap operas. These days he is in the business of casting young talents to television serials.

I offered him a plate and a few paani puris that he gladly accepted. We spoke for a while and walked towards Paschim vihar. There was no social network and, neither was the mobile phone a common entity.

We exchanged pleasantries and, he disappeared in the Galli of Madipur and, I continued my walk.

Did I miss a chance to work in a soap opera or, was I up for losing some money on the pretext of casting?

treadmill

We are running on a treadmill. A lot of this blame goes to our parents and society. The level of expectations put on young shoulders by Indian parents is undoubtedly beyond the limits. 

There is a checklist made as we age. This system makes life miserable for women, a constant nudge of getting married and getting settled. Even the most educated and feminists cannot escape it. 

There have been awkward conversations like:

  •  You are going to die with your pets. 
  • Get married you are crossing 29th year, having a baby will be difficult. 

My question is simple, why do Indian parents have such controlling urges? Why can’t they let their kids live their life? Are women just baby-making machines? 

Dayan

Bahar mat Jana(don’t go out), screamed my maasi. I was five years old then and, I had kajal smeared over my forehead as a protection toolkit from bad omen.

Those days killing of widows on the pretext of Dayan was common. It was a piece of daily news. Was it a way to get rid of old women from our society or, was it an easy way to get revenge on someone or their family?

A few years later, I asked my maasi why she made me stay indoors even in the daylight. She replied: Bahut Dayan hai yahan(There are too many witches in this village). She does not want anyone to know that she has a visitor, a young boy.

My maasi shared some stories and a few incidents which have made the existence of Dayan more real.

Last year for consecutive months, most newborns died within a few weeks of their birth. The village panchayat sent for a Tantrik who identified eight women as witches. The villagers punished them and, the death of newborns came down significantly.

My maasi always stayed away from her village during ten days of Durga Puja. She says those ten days are most active for the Dayans(witches). Their superpower can do anything like converting a tree into an Arial riding machine.

Many villagers saw women dancing in the Kabristaan holding a newborn corpse. They were more in action during moonless nights. Some villagers reported a loss of eyesight and voice because of Dayans.

I have not visited Maasi in twenty years. She visits us.

meaning

Most of us live miserable life. Some die from childhood to old age and work like a bonded slave. The quest for seeking meaning or purpose in life does not exist for us most.

We are running a battle called life, where all we are trying to stay afloat. The time we have is to figure out where will the next meal come, how to get a daughter married.

The quest for Roti, Kapra, and makaan are above everything else. We have no time for finding the meaning of our life.

Injury

I have been regularly running for over six years now. It has been more of a meditation for me and helps with clear thoughts. I am not a gym person and quit cycling as well after a morning riding accident.

I have been in on and off knee pain because of running. Last week I consulted a doctor and got to know about runner’s knee along with vitamin deficiency. It seems like I will be just walking for the next 6-8 months along with swimming.

This injury makes me realize the importance of technique. I have just been running all this while with a good pair of shoes. The more I am reading am realizing what all our body, the knee goes through when we run.

lead

Can you lead with fear or putting guns on the head of your team? Isn’t a team is about working together for a common cause?

The modern world runs on money. People join and leave for better money. But how long can money subside over shitty work conditions or treated like a slave with a gun on the head?

I understand some of us are in dire need of money because of the liability and external expectations. But for how long will this life continue?

There will be a day when we end up quitting everything and thinking back about the time of our life and realizing what all we lost because of the rat race.

We have to define and lead our own short life.