As we age, we get more isolated from everyday movement and socializing. I had last few weeks where I spent time with some of my elderly relatives and now with my parents.
One thing that keeps them going is having a routine: waking up, praying, talking to loved ones. And other aspects like eating well on a defined period.
With the emergence of mass migration to metros for a better life, we have all become less connected to our parents. We will bring them to live with us. They will not enjoy it. We force them to change their routine and surroundings for us. In most instances, they will not complain. But will they be able to adjust to this change?
Can you imagine yourself airdropped in a different world in the ’70s of your age and taking away the daily rituals and connections? Will you be happy to make this sacrifice so that your son/daughter/grand kids live happily?
I will not enjoy aging like this. I would not like to see this happening to my parents.
The book ‘Powerful” by Patty McCord talks about hiring and the overall culture at Netflix. Patty was an early recruiter there and these days consults startups by teaching how and what to hire.
If you have read No Rule Rules by Reed Hastings, I don’t think you need to read this book.
Building an initial team requires a clear vision, responsibility, and defined incentives and deliverables from every stakeholder. In short, as a leader, you have to hire adults and believe in them that they will deliver.
Running an organization on principles matters like :
- Radical transparency
- Radical openness
- Meritocracy and honesty
Is there an end to our needs? How much do we need for a rational living? Has consumerism increased our unwanted needs? Or is this attributed to the progress of humanity?
Or all the mobile apps you have bought membership of from meat, grocery to food delivery for 10 mins delivery. Does it matter?
Are we living in a bubble where all these artificially created needs make us go bonkers and, we are in FOMO?
I don’t know. Ask yourself about the latest purchase and one before that. Are they used?
How Much Land Does a Man Need?
We need people in a team like a missionary, with a common goal and belief, ones who are with us for long-term gain. Building a startup is not for everyone. It requires a lot of patience, persistence, and perfection.
As a missionary team, we should have a common purpose. Everything falls in place. And every other incentive becomes secondary.
When building a startup for long-term success, the team should avoid mercenaries.
One simple reason for this is that mercenaries think for the short term and about themselves first. They want the best outcome for themselves and, when the ship is sinking, they will be the first to disappear.
If paid more, mercenaries will also fight against you in the battle by joining hands with your competitors and sharing internal secrets.
So make up your mind, decide and hire accordingly on the traits. Think for the long term and overall win-win for the organisation.
I am halfway through the book: How democracies die. One part of the book talks about mutual tolerance and its importance in keeping democracy alive. It means running the country together with some disagreement among the ruling and opposition. At the same time, the government and judiciary work together and keep democracy alive.
Once mutual tolerance is lost, democracy turns into anarchy and dictatorship. I found it fascinating.
If we relate mutual tolerance in our everyday life, it will fit in at many other instances in our daily lives as well.
Our brain is a stupid beast. Either we tame it or get enslaved to it.
In the book power of habit, the author talks about how little incremental regulations can do wonders in the long run. At the same time, breaking the habit affects adversely.
Quitting a daily virtue is easy but getting back takes a lot of effort. The brain needs to be tamed, convinced, and politely told what’s not required.
I have been out from pranayam practice for a week and am a 24/7 zombie currently. The same goes with giving up on running cos of injury.
We console ourselves with projecting externals in a particular manner. We want to be part of the crowd. Not everyone has the courage or guts to go against the odds.
We are living two lives apart: real and reel. Social media has amplified and increased the projection and seek for recognition. The urge of being someone. We act, present, and position ourselves differently with the hope of getting more eyeballs, likes. What we have forgotten is that these are virtual and limited.
In the end, we have to live with our thoughts. We can fool the world but not our thoughts and emotions. Who are we trying to cheat? At what cost? Why are we trying to become someone like everyone in the same crowd?
Some blame their upbringing or economic condition for ending up as an underachiever. They feel locked with the limited resources in their life. I have over half a dozen friends who still blame their parents for not letting them go abroad for higher studies.
Reading Autobiographies, I see a different picture. Most successful entrepreneurs fought their way to the top. They went against all the odds and built a world for themselves.
There is no level playing field. There never was. We have to free ourselves, do what we feel is our purpose in life. Finding life’s purpose is difficult. A few successful ones got unlocked and built a life for themselves.
Many others died blaming their parents, society, and loved ones for being locked.
I have been in a few conversations and, some of my friends advocate not to drink coffee. Their simple analogy is coffee affects our sleep and, it’s a drug worth avoiding. A few others tell me coffee intake can result in an uneven heartbeat. If you are a runner, it will have more adverse effects.
The fun part of science and ideology is that both are divided. So what is correct and what is not on our consciousness.
Sometimes what is good one might have adverse effects on another. I tried many times quitting coffee but came back in a few days. The side effects: I was sleeping way too much.
Every now and then brain says give up coffee and, the heart says fucking no and wins.
Another problem: What to drink when out with friends? Contaminated juice with overly sedated sugar syrup or green tea or milky/frothy smoothie?