Our communication channels have skyrocketed in the past decade. Social media and IMs have replaced in-person meetings. Postmen rarely deliver any mails, besides online shipments.
The vehicle of sharing opinions, feedbacks and criticism has increased too. Sending a hate or love message can be done with a tap of our fingers.[via smartphone]
It is too easy to get lost in this endless communiation and take less thought through, impulsive decisions.
How can we live rational or have our independent thoughts if we don’t have a BS meter or a filtering mechanism?
“Some things are in our control and others not. Things in our control are opinion, pursuit, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever are our own actions. Things not in our control are body, property, reputation, command, and, in one word, whatever are not our actions. The things in our control are by nature free, unrestrained, unhindered; but those not in our control are weak, slavish, restrained, belonging to others. Remember, then, that if you suppose that things which are slavish by nature are also free, and that what belongs to others is your own, then you will be hindered. You will lament, you will be disturbed, and you will find fault both with gods and men. But if you suppose that only to be your own which is your own, and what belongs to others such as it really is, then no one will ever compel you or restrain you. Further, you will find fault with no one or accuse no one. You will do nothing against your will. No one will hurt you, you will have no enemies, and you not be harmed.”
― Epictetus, Enchiridion and Selections from the Discourses
Fear is the creation of self. Our imagination of losing something or someone drives it. Our dependence on externals is what drives fear.
Fear is a disease now and many pharma companies and therapist are minting money on it.
Why do we have to fear about losing someone or something?
Socrates died giving discourses on acquiring self-knowledge. But here we are, living like a miserable animal imagining for the worst from our life.
Pointing filth about our neighborhood, deteriorating living conditions and pollution is easy. We are all part of it while accepting our own mistakes are another. We are all part of the problem.
We, humans, are like animals and have been conditioned over centuries to ride over our ego and expectations. Every situation and scenario 1st thing we ask ourselves is: “What’s in it for me?”
Another class, sages were the opposite. They worked for making this world a better place for everyone. They accepted their imperfection.
Decide who you want to be.
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!
Excerpts from ‘Brother Square-Toes’—Rewards and Fairies by Rudyard Kipling
I have been been reading and listening to this poem for sometime.
Getting angry, acting irrationally is a common vice. We all get caught up in a situation and react. Sometimes it acts as a fight mechanism but mostly effects ourselves.
Why do we get angry? Is it because of our unmet expectation, our ego or because we think we are not treated well?
Why can’t we be honest and respond with the truth?
I can’t believe someone has no time to follow up or reply to your mails. No one is that busy, responding is not the priority.
Would it not be easy to respond and “reply we are not interested?”
Would it not save back and forth time of communication?
My friend in sales business says, 70% of his time gets to spend in follow up. This is a waste of precious time.
A simple NO saves so much time.