I am sure some of you have read about 10,000 hours rule. You can be an expert in almost anything if you can practice it for 10,000 hours. It comes out to be 7 hours of practice for almost 4 years [If my maths are still in place].
If you have read Scott Adams book How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big: Kind of the Story of My Life where is talks about goals vs system.
In this era of instant gratification where we want our satisfactions met over few minutes via a dating app to on-demand movie app to cab aggregator app. It is extremely difficult to keep/stay motivated for 4 years because of passionate to pursue interest. [It is not impossible either, you need to be super humans]
What have we done to ourselves?
- I should get MBA degree after engineering, it will pay me well.
- I should enroll to some kind of sports as well, admission to degree college will become easy.
- Take online classes of machine learning because it will pay me well.
We are forcing ourself to fit in the box for our future. How about we play by our strength?
Will that not keep us happy in our present and we make best out of it in every arena?
I got to know about “J Krishnamurti” long back when my sister went to study at KFI Rajghat Besant school Banaras.
But sometime back I got to know about his writing and viewpoint about life and all things Philosophy. I am still in process of becoming a regular reader.
Total Freedom has been one of the longest reading for me so far. It feels great that I finally finished it after 20-25 days. I am hoping to finish up reading all his writings over few years time.
Big thanks to Naval Ravikant for recommending this book in one of his podcast. I will highly recommend everyone reading this this.
These are some of my notes from the book :
- What you are is the result of the past and what you will be tomorrow is what you are now.
- Time and thought are the root of fear.
- We depend on others so much to be helped, to be encouraged, to solve our problems; therefore, out of our confusion we create authority, the gurus, the priests.
- Learning implies not only observing visually, optically, but also observing without any distortion, seeing things exactly as they are.
- Truth is very dangerous because it brings a revolution in oneself.
- Where there is division there must be conflict. Conflict with all its violence is a wastage of energy. The gathering of total energy is the beginning of silence.
- If you want to see “heaven” you must be silent.
- If we apply our mind we can solve anything.
- Confusion arises when there is division, which is inattention.
- Compassion is the highest form of intelligence.
- Emptiness in yourself can never be filled by something else.
- How can there be a relationship between two people when each one is pursuing his own desires, ambitions, greeds?
- Man has done everything on earth possible to run away from the actuality of daily living with all its complexities.
- What mankind has done is quite incredible and shocking, not only toward other human beings, but also in himself.
- When there is no observer but merely observation then there is no conflict.
- Enlightenment is where you are. And where you are, you have to understand yourself.
- If I have cause to love you—because you give me comfort, psychologically, physically, sexually, morally—it is not love.
- Meditation implies a quality of mind that is absolutely silent. Not made silence, not a contrived act brought about through will, but a silence that comes naturally when you have established order, relationship, and behavior.
- We are the world. The world is you and me, the world is not separate from you and me. We have created this world—the world of violence, the world of wars, the world of religious divisions, sex, anxieties, the utter lack of communication with each other, with no sense of compassion, consideration for another.
- All human beings, radically, basically, are afraid, anxious, in sorrow, confused, unhappy, with occasional joy; psychologically it is a constant movement, wherever human beings are it is the same stream.
- Attachment gives a certain occupation to the mind; you constantly think about something. The brain and the mind say, “I must be occupied with something”—with my god, with my sex, with my drink; “I must be occupied”—with the kitchen, or with some social order, or commune, or whatever it is.
- Why is one human being attached to another? Does not attachment breed fear, fear of losing what one is attached to? Being attached, you may become jealous, frightened, anxious, which are obvious phenomena. You are attached because of your own insufficiency, loneliness. And so out of your own insufficiency, loneliness, a sense of lacking, you cling to another. So is attachment love? Where there is attachment there must be exploitation. And we use that word love to cover up all this. And is love jealousy?
- In attachment there is fear, there is anxiety, there is hate, all the conflicts in relationship; and where there is conflict can there be love? Where there is ambition, can there be love? When you strip yourself of ambition, anxiety, attachment, and understand deeply the meaning and the significance of pleasure and desire, then you perhaps come upon that strange thing called love.
- Suppose I am attached to a person. In that attachment and in the consequences of that attachment are innumerable pains, jealousy, anxiety, dependency, the whole consequence of attachment. In that attachment to the person there is division immediately. Now is that attachment, the feeling of dependence, clinging, holding on to somebody, different from me? Or I am that? I am attachment. If one realizes that, conflict ends. It is so. Not that I must get rid of it, not that I must be independent, detached; detachment is attachment; if I try to become detached I am attached to that detachment.
- There is only one thing. A mind that is very clear is free from all entanglements of attachment. Such a mind is a light to itself. Therefore, it does not want an experience, there is nothing to experience.
- When there is an ending to attachment—completely, not just to persons and ideas but the whole process of attachment, with all the consequences of that—there is a totally different state of mind.
- If you take a journey into yourself, empty all the content that you have collected and go very, very deeply, then there is that vast space, that so-called emptiness, that is full of energy. And in that state alone there is that which is most sacred, most holy.
- If you leave all the psychological memories, hurts, pains, behind, every day, then it means dying and living are together. In that there is no fear.
- Meditation can only be actual, truthful, honest, when there is no fear, no hurt, no anxiety, no sorrow. Meditation can only take place when there is no conscious effort made to meditate. I am afraid it goes against everything you believe.
- If you end all conflict, the mind naturally becomes quiet. And when the mind is absolutely silent, without any movement of thought, then perhaps you will see something, perhaps there is something sacred beyond all words. And this man has sought everlastingly, something that is beyond measure, beyond thought, which is incorruptible, unnameable, eternal. That can only take place when the mind is absolutely free and completely silent.
- If I live completely without psychological time, it is an extraordinary thing. Time means accumulation. Time means remembrance. Time means accumulating knowledge about oneself. But when there is no time at all, psychologically, there is nothing.
- When you yourself become both the teacher and the disciple—disciple being a man who is learning, learning, learning, not accumulating knowledge—then you are an extraordinary human being.
I have no clue if feeling is a good thing or bad for you. I do have some idea how it originates though.
Attachment –> Expectations —> Ego is satisfied —- (Yes ) —-> Positive Feelings
(No) —-> Negative Feelings
Feelings can lead to daydreaming or over thinking apart from giving depression, anger, insomnia etc. This can result into affecting your present and future. To have a great present you have to live a life free from past prejudice, learnings. A life like an empty slate which is empty and has no affect from outside world.
I am writing this post after spending good 45-50 minutes in figuring out how to install CentOs Linux 7.3.
- Disable IPV6
- Configure network on boot
- Install net-tools to get my ifconfig command.
In real life simple things are widely accepted.
- Booking a cab via Uber [Past call a taxi, fight with cab drivers]
- Booking a hotel via Airbnb [You had no clue what you paid for and what is offered]
- Booking flight tickets via Cleartrip et all. [Monitor, buy instead being on mercy of offline travel agent]
- Ordering food via Swiggy, Zomato, Dunzo [Call to restaurant if they want they will deliver food to your door step ]
- Loading cash via PayTm [Go via traditional net-banking, log in/add account/wait for confirmation]
- Ordering book from Flipkart/Amazon [Go to shopping mall, if the book is available you are lucky else keep visiting]
As technology has evolved, so has the product/user experience. If you have a simple and beautifully explained system/interface, any first time user will be hooked to it.
If you are a product builder ask yourself will my grandparents use it without calling me or wasting hours digging inside product documentation?
From the day we are born, we are told what we should not do. Be it our teacher, friends, religion or parents.
- Stay away from those people, they are from inferior caste or religion.
- A true X keeps fast in Holi month or a true Y quits non-veg food for 10 days in year for this. [religion playing]
- You will not get a job taking arts/philosophy course, better go study science.
- Don’t fall in love, it is very painful.
- You are no genius to become like that signer, actor or scientist. Stick to your 9-5 job.
- Get married before 30 else no one will marry you & you will die lonely.
What should we do?
Simple ask yourself, what is purpose of your living and move along accordingly.
Growing up in a society has its own perk. You are fed with certain kind of ideas, ideologies, prejudice[passed on generation after generation]
What you should totally do is learn to unlearn :
- Bias fed by parents, society or religion.
- Past failures which would be stopping you for next risk taking adventure.
- Running for a teacher, god or hermit who will fix you.
- Old habits which are effecting you severely: Drinking, Smoking.
- Crying over past or planning for future.
- Blaming others for your failures.
We are living in a competitive environment. From time of birth to our death we are competing.
We are competing over materialistic things:
- Grades in your degrees
- Salary you are drawing.
- Girl/Guy you got married to.
- How well off you are in your life with all the possession, vacation and life long luxury .
- $$ will be spent on decorating you skeleton in graveyard or quality of wine served on celebrating your death.
I honestly have no clue about anything above, all I am busy these days is comparing myself with what/how I was last year. Competing with self to be better in life is best thing that has happened to me.
Give it a try, it will make you a different human being altogether.
I had few questions running through my mind, the prime being .
What is purpose of my existence. :
- Am I making the world around me a happy place?
- Are my contribution to community/world around meaningful?
- Are my actions and interaction with people around me keeping me happy?
- Am I watchful to every decision of my life.
- Am I living in present, this moment of my life or building/dreaming on future castle while living a miserable present.
Do I have answers for these questions? Not yet, hopefully will find it over the time.
We are all different, each one of us think and behave differently. We have our own opinion, prejudice and priorities. It is not necessary that we have to buy into everyone’s belief and follow it.
But at many instances you would have seen a special kind of people:
- Who are just negative and everything they speak or do turns out pessimistic.
- Who are working with you or around you to just prove their point right even if that means screwing up whole system
- Who think they know everything and they are the centre of universe.
- Who try to dictate their agenda over entire group because it will benefit them.
- Stay away from them and their ideology.
- If they are part of your team avoid as much directly dealing with them.
Our life is more important than dealing with toxic people or any kind of brain fatigue.
Our identity has a lot to do with what/who we are in eye of society. We create a fabric/mirror/boundary around us and respond to a situation or person depending on our Ego. [Unfortunately]
- He/She did not respond to my email/phone/sms/Whatsapp, I will block him/her now. [Might have been busy, can we not give some benefit of doubt?]
- He/She said things after getting drunk at a party which I did not like, okey not attending any party where he/she is invited. [How about talking next day when he/she is sober and sorting it out?]
- I know more than my teacher, he/she is just a loser knows nothing. [Yep, he/she graduated when you were crawling in your diapers. ]
Everything is about I and circling around existence of me. If it pleases me, my Ego is rising and smooth otherwise my blood pressure is hitting all time high. Not sure if any of this effects person on other side of table. We create our ego & burn/frown/rot in it.