Sleep

Since the early days of my life, I felt sleep is overrated. My last few jobs required me to be awake on the clock. I did not realize much of its flip side then.

After thinking about those days, a lot of my mood swings, sugar cravings and anxiety had to do with my sleep.

Most of you know I have been a big-time coffee evangelist but from last few weeks I have limited caffeine intake, a glass before 7 am. I see an instant effect of it: more relaxed, more energy, less anxiety, and sound sleep. I am getting dreams as well. 🙂

My new meeting places are picked on a strict condition: It should also have caffeine-free, milk-free and sugar-free drinks in their menu.

This simple habit change has done magic on me.

Imagine

We are a working class. We have no time for leisure. We have left an era behind, where idealness fostered philosophy, arts, and innovation.

More and more we are living a matchbox kind of life. Our 24/7 we are running like a machine: Wake up, eat, work, work and more work, eat, sleep.

Getting a leave is kind of real luxury which includes replying to phone calls or emails. We are always rushing but never reaching. Then society dictates us on the need of getting married, buying a house, raising children and what not.

I bet most of us die without imagining. Our life is not to live like cattle, grazing. Our faculty of imagination and consciousness ends up getting unutilized.

Respect

Why do we have to crave for respect? Why do we need respect?
Who are we to decide or ask for respect?

You get respect with your virtue, your contribution to this universe for the greater good.

Why does one has to treat his employees like a dog or his maid like a slave and on top expect them to give back respect?

Significance

It is amazing how we humans think about ourselves and crave for our significance. It can be any social structure: job, family or religion.

We don’t realize that our significance in this compared vast universe is meaningless. We accumulate wealth or crave for respect, love Et all.

To be significant one requires more than wealth power or superiority: Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Jr. Et All showed it to us.

Anxiety

I have been under anxiety for the past few weeks. Most of it was fueled because of overthinking. I was not able to sleep, felt very tired and sad.

The self-introspection helped me realize about my irrationality. I was trying to control things which I should not have.

It takes time to be virtuous, in my case it will take a few more decades.

Fiction

We all make our own unique story, a fiction of ourselves through the course of our life. Psychologists say we humans are individually different, we perceive, react and respond to scenarios differently.

The journey of our life plays a big role in the genre of our fiction. Most of us are fighting for survival, we go through our own share of misery and sufferings.

What genre of fiction are you writing?

I

I find it weird seeing people how they identify themselves on the basis of their caste, class, religion at all. Some showcase their wealth, while others their materialistic possessions.

In the end, we are a piece of meat and acquainted with the power of thinking (which we are on the verge of losing). We are conditioned with our society and biased with our own ideology.

How much of it and I matters?

Superiority complex

Still halfway through reading: the courage to be disliked, the author talks about the superiority complex.

Like the inferiority complex, the superiority complex comes to someone for his/her urge to cease power and respect.

One cannot get over the Superiority complex unless he/she stops craving for things in his/her way. With our cravings and urge to be liked, respected: this looks like a tough ask.

Talking

The easiest thing is giving assurance. Some people are just good at it. How much impact it makes in life, they don’t care.

Be very careful with picking someone as your last resort, it can hurt and make you weak.

Those who help don’t speak much, they keep giving without expectation.

Opportunity Cost

Being sad or living a miserable life is a choice. The reason for it could be anything from a job to a relationship.

I find it weird when people crib about their toxic work environment and how they are barely keeping up with their health. In the same conversation they mention, pay is great so they are continuing at it for their better future.

I also find it weird seeing friends continue to live in failed relationships because they are used to each other. Both sides have given up in finding a truce or moving on.

We are letting Sunk Cost fallacy dictate in most scenario. As a rational human, the Opportunity cost is what we should be caring for.

People are frugal in guarding their personal property; but as soon as it comes to squandering time they are most wasteful of the one thing in which it is right to be stingy.
― Seneca